Dear Judgey McJudgerpants:

I’m writing this letter as a reminder. 

Here are a few things you know to be true.

1) You spot it, you got it. It’s so much easier to pick out the flaws and imperfections of others. I’m not sure why you do it (habit? patterns? human nature?) but, I am reminding you that it isn’t the way you want to show up and live. You absolutely know that others are doing the best they can at any given moment – so, cut them some slack. Remember that you don’t like to be judged and that you choose to ‘give away’ all that you want to receive. And frankly, who says you’re doing it right?

Grant acceptance.
Be tolerant.
Overlook what you perceive.

And just meet people where they are.
It frees them.
And you.

2) If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” Mother Teresa.

How can you love someone when you’re so busy assessing and evaluating and analyzing their every move? You readily admit you are not perfect, so what’s with the judgement and criticism – even if it’s only in your head???

Stop picking things apart.
Practice the art of witnessing.
Listen harder.
Look deep into their eyes.
See the Whole.

3) Whenever you point a finger out at someone, remember there are three pointing back at you.

People who live in glass houses? … Ring a bell?

… Which is the pretty much the exact same as …

4) Clean up your own back yard. 

Imagine what you could accomplish if you took all that energy and used it to transform your own life.

Revisit: Stop Trying to Change People 

You believe that if every person just focused on healing their own wounds, practiced self-love, cared for their immediate family and cleaned up their own little corner – the world would be in a completely different state.

The biggest wave of goodness and light you can create is in your own little pond. Cheesey, I know.

Leave them alone already.
You’re on your path, they’re on theirs.
Kiss them with kindness, and let them go.
And focus on living your own life.

5) Practice NON-judgement – EVERY where.

I know you’re seriously annoyed by the sneaky photos taken of unsuspecting Wal-mart patrons wearing nude leggings as pants (I mean, who fucking cares, really?). If you can extend compassion and non-judgement to complete strangers, can’t you suspend your judgement and offer compassion to those you profess to know and love?  

and finally.

6) Please try to be gentle with yourself.

I know your heart.

For as hard as you can be on others, I know that you are your own worst critic and can be doubly hard on yourself.

I see you scowl in the mirror and know you push yourself. You want better and more – not of stuff and things – but for productivity and quality and cleanliness and in goals.

Stop self-evaluating.
Do it because you WANT to, not because it means you’re doing it ‘right’ or ‘better’.
Stop forcing. And pushing.

Allow.  Ease.  Flow. (all good words for 2015 – #coredesiredfeelings)

It’s all enough.
They’re okay.
You’re okay.
Let it be.

And remember the way you want to show up in your life.

Love you. So much,

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